Mom
It’s been 19 days since my Mom passed away and still looks unreal. Sometimes I feel she is coming back from work. Everything happen so fast; she didn’t look sick, she was 100% alert, young and always caring and the most important thing always smile. Unfortunately, she lost her battle against a silent cancer in gall bladder.
There are times when I question myself if I missed any symptoms. Was I not paying attention because of my hectic and busy life. I question myself, why my mom made me the decision maker and how I started questioning if I took the best medical decisions. I leave it in God’s hand because there is nothing I can do. I’ll just let time heal my pain. ( I don’t know if its a coincidence or what but, my friend just send me this text as I’m writing this blog )
“I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish that He didn’t trust me so much.” ~Mother Teresa
Always praying for your strength xo- Jennifer.
To be honest I never understood someone else’s pain until now. I have friends that already have gone through this kind of pain losing parents, sibling and family members. I would always say something like “I’m sorry about your loss” or “my deepest sympathy” but never felt their pain until now. Now, I feel their pain and I know those words have a big meaning. Now I can related to any who have lost someone. My mother was everything for me. She taught me good values and morals. She encourage me to find my own American Dream. She was always so caring and always helping other who needed it. All I have from her are her lessons.
The ways of coping for are different among everyone, people cope in different ways. I focused on other things like photography and other things that make my fulfill with joy. Talking to friends and random people I have hope that one day I’ll see her again. Many have told me that they have seeing their love one through a dream, and other have felt their presence.
I just pray God that one day I’ll simply see her again to tell how Thankful I am and how much I love her.
Through the last weeks I have come with 10 things that have help me cope.
- Surround yourself with family and friends.
- Play happy music or listen to motivational podcasts.
- 15 minute walk
- Write letters to your loved one
- Go out and take pictures of any kind
- Find something to do to keep you happy ( hobby)
- Journal
- Deep clean your house donate things you don’t longer need.
- Don’t judge about grieving.
- Always take one day at a time
We all cope in different ways.